In Reality

So, I figured out who you are.
I don't have anything going on with your husband.
I never did and I wont.
I don't know what made you think that.
I received your voicemail and I wish there had been a number that I could have contacted you on to relieve your mind.

I knew him in middle/high school when he was friends with my brother.
It was interesting learning about my old classmates and the things that they had been up to. I've been reconnecting with them through facebook. But just as friends.

He didn't tell me he was married.
I was under the impression he was dating this girl named Mona.
He did ask me out. And I said we could hang out as friends but nothing more.
When I looked at his page, I saw that he was married.
I asked him about that. He said he wasn't. I asked why would he ask me out if he's dating someone and is married? He swore up and down that he wasn't dating anyone and that he wasn't married. I told him his fb page said he was married. He said no, you don't understand. I told him there was nothing to understand, I didn't want more than a friendship with him. When I checked his page again, it said he was in a civil union. I asked him why he would change that. He said he didn't. Those sound like lies to me.

The sitter he uses is a very good friend of mine. On Thursday, she accompanied my children and I to a dr's appt. Daniel and Josh came with us. Afterwards, we stopped at Chik-fil-A. While eating, the boys mentioned never having been to Chik-fil-A and how they liked the food. I told them they should mention it to their dad. They said they could tell their mom but maybe they wouldn't be able to come. They mentioned you two live together.

From there, I went to work. I messaged Daniel and told him that the kids told me mom was living in the house. That he shouldn't have lied about that. (I don't deal with married men. ESPECIALLY married men with children. I'm selfish. I want a relationship to be about me and MY kids. I don't want to be a step-mom. I can't date someone with kids because that's a package deal.)

Carol, from my point of view, it seems that you are dealing with a lot. I don't want to add to that. There's no reason for the unnecessary stress.

I informed Daniel that it seemed like there was a lot of work going into our FRIENDSHIP and he said that there was stuff I didn't understand. I told him there was nothing to understand. He was married and that was it.

After I blocked his number, he messaged me on fb saying he needed me to call him. I told him there was nothing to be said. He'd said what he thought was necessary. I relented and did call him. But the story didn't change. I told him there was nothing going on between us. And that there wouldn't be.

That's all there is to it. I don't want anything with your husband. Definitely not a relationship! I have aspirations and goals. Becoming involved with a married man, would definitely hinder me. I think I covered everything. IF I haven't, please message me and I'll answer anything with the best of my ability. I hope your mind is at ease.

favi.
Received August 10,2013 at 10:55 am

THE LOVELY MESSAGE I RECEIVED FROM THE 3 FEMALE(for better lack of words). I TRULY CAN'T BELIEVE THAT YOU DENIED BEING MARRIED TO ME. THE FIRST AND SECOND WOMEN I COULD DEAL WITH AND FORGIVE YOU BUT THIS I CAN NOT. I'VE NEVER BEEN ASHAMED TO SAY TO ANYONE THAT YOU WERE MY HUSBAND. EVERY TIME I READ THIS MESSAGE IT BRINGS ME SOME SORT OF FREEDOM KNOWING THAT MY CHILDREN AND I WILL BE BETTER OFF WITHOUT YOU. THOUGH I KNOW IT WILL BE HARD BECAUSE YOU'RE ALL WE'VE EVER KNOWN. I KNOW WE WILL BE OKAY. I AM NOT BITTER TOWARDS YOU OR YOUR ACTIONS BUT I AM HURT BECAUSE I LOVE YOU. I GAVE YOU MY HEART AND YOU RIPPED IT OUT AND STOMPED ON IT. I GAVE YOU ALL MY LOVE AND YOU WANTED NONE OF IT. I SAT THERE DAY BY DAY THINKING FINALLY EVERYTHING WAS GOING TO BE OKAY WHEN IN REALITY NOTHING HAD CHANGED.